something william lambert described to me, which i thought was fascinating..
when you're listening to somebody, you're resting your attention in them, giving them the time of day to listen to what they have to say, making the effort, giving the space for it. it's an act of love. even if it's two enemies arguing- the fact that they pause to listen to what the other person has to say, is an act of love .
attention is synonymous with love, in all contexts and situations.
like fox mulder and alex krycek hate each other, but they still listen to what each other has t say, they ask questions and listen to the response.